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Dear Dra. Holmes:
I want to leave Alice, the mother of my child. She and I are different people. My family also doesn’t ­accept Rita; she comes from a different background and religion.

Becky is my long-time girlfriend and I want to marry her. She knows about my indiscretion to ­Alice which happened after Becky and I got engaged.

I don’t know how to end things with Alice, who is preoccupied with the baby and has not brought up the idea of marriage. I dodged that bullet before when I told her to prioritize the baby whom I visit frequently.
I am just civil with Alice. I no longer hug or kiss her. But she believes that I love her and am ­doing ­everything for her and the baby. I will always ­respect ­Alice as the mother of my child. It is different with Becky, whom I plan to marry.

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I want to leave Alice without angering her so much she prevents me from seeing my child. I want to spare Becky from Alice’ anger. Please advice me.
Jesse

Dear Jesse:
Maraming salamat sa sulat mo. Unang-una, hindi ka maaaring pagbawalang makita ang anak mo. Mas mabuti kung magkasunduan kayo ni Alice tungkol sa iyong pagbisita sa anak ninyo, pero kung hindi, maaari kang mag-file ng petisyon sa hukuman. Ang batas ay malinaw tungkol sa karapatan ng biyolohikong (biological) ama tungkol rito.

Ang aking pagbanggit ng batas ay dahil klaro na hindi magiging maganda ang reaksyon ni Alice kapag: 1. Nalaman niyang wala kang balak ipagpatuloy ang relasyon mo sa kanya; 2. Mas masaklap, mayroon ka nang kapalit sa kanya; 3. Pero hindi ito kasing saklap kung madiskubre niya na habang nagkikita kayo at kinukumbinsi na mahal mo si Alice, mayroon ka na palang long-time girlfriend, si Becky. In other words, niloko mo si Alice. Niloko mo rin si Becky, pero suwerte mo, tila okay kayo ni Becky.

Si Alice lang ang “problema” mo ngayon. (TO BE CONTINUED)

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